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Hi Reader,

I’m sure you’ve found yourself in a season of overwhelm before. And during that season, I’m guessing someone gave you this enlightening advice:

“You just need to set boundaries.”

As if there’s a pill you can swallow and suddenly your calendar, inbox, and nervous system feel balanced and protected.

That’s never been our experience. Setting boundaries is something that we just don’t find comes that easy to us and to most women we know.

A few weeks ago, I was standing in the kitchen after a long day, staring at a text I didn’t want to answer. It was a request that seemed simple on the surface but I was over my limit. My stomach was tight. My brain was busy writing polite (long) explanations and half-truths. The real truth was simple: I just didn’t have it in me. Not that night. Not for that request. I kept thinking, “all you have to do is say no.” But the word “No” just wouldn’t come.

When we teach boundaries we think of them like a river flowing down a mountain. The mountain is you. At the top of the mountain is your identity, self-worth, and values. That’s where the water starts clear and strong. Downstream is where you take action - setting boundaries, communicating needs. However, if we try to clear the water only at the bottom, we’re always reacting. When we start upstream - connecting to who we are and what we value - the boundaries downstream are natural and aligned.

Here’s what it looks like in real life. You begin to notice the signals: the pit in your stomach before a meeting, the looping thoughts after a conversation, the guilt that arrives when you try to rest or the flash of resentment on a random Tuesday.

Those signals are invitations, not judgments.

Your nervous system is whispering, “I’m at my limit.”

So you walk upstream. You ask simple questions and listen for honest answers. And in the asking and listening, there is a very important pause.

• What is taking more from me than it is giving?
• Where am I overriding myself?
• Does this offer a gain, or a drain of energy?

This pause changes everything. From a reaction to an intention.

When the answers come, there’s a steadiness to them. A boundary stops feeling like a wall and starts feeling like clarity.

Boundaries rest on two foundations:

• Self-awareness: I know what I need and value.
• Self-worth: I’m allowed to protect it.

From there, the helpful language for healthy boundaries becomes easier. Short sentences. Clean edges. I was still terrified of the disappointment of others. Now, with intention and practice, each time I honor a limit, my life lines up a little more with my values. There’s less resentment and more room for what I care about.

If “yes” is your default, it’s no wonder you feel stretched thin. If you are in a season when over-responsibility and people-pleasing erode boundaries, let us help you to reset them, without guilt. We have created RESTORE for you.​

RESTORE, is a one-day luxury retreat for women at Amrit Ocean Resort on Singer Island on Sunday, November 9. Our boundaries session will take you to the source, then guide you to language that sounds like you. You’ll leave with a plan that protects your energy and the confidence to use it.

Save your spot for RESTORE.

With you,
​Kelly & Sadie

P.S. If you could use a bit of a Reset now, you don't have to wait until November to experience that. Join us tomorrow, October 3rd for our Friday Reset. This is an hour we set aside for YOU so that you can rest, reflect and reset to show up as your best for yourself and others. See you there.

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” Brene Brown.

Kelly Berry Strategic Leader, Coach & Podcast Host ​​​​​​

Sadie Wackett C-Suite HR Executive & Coach ​​​​

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