Hi Reader,
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to say “yes” to everything, only to find yourself exhausted, stretched thin, and a little resentful?
By nature, I'm a "do it myself", "I can do more" and "don't want to disappoint" type of person. So, it can be difficult for me to even realize I'm saying yes to too much.
If I’m being really honest, it took me a long time to realize that those feelings of irritability and overwhelm weren’t signs of failure—they were signals that I needed boundaries.
In my recent conversation with Emily Steines, we talked about how a lack of boundaries keeps us in a state of chronic stress and dysregulation. (Sound familiar?)
For many of us, especially as women and moms, boundaries are the hardest thing to set. We tell ourselves, “I can handle one more thing,” until there’s no space left for rest or joy.
The truth is, boundaries aren't selfish!! They're essential for emotional and physical well-being. Emily explained that without boundaries, we're constantly pulled in every direction—available to everyone, all the time. This drains our energy and leaves us feeling overwhelmed. When we establish boundaries, we create space for presence, patience, and calm.
Think of the little moments when irritation creeps in—when your child interrupts your work for the tenth time, a friend asks you for yet another favor or when a family member assumes you’re free because you “work from home.” Those moments are your body’s way of saying, “A line has been crossed.”
I personally think that becoming aware of what's really going on and working to set appropriate boundaries is a HUGE step in living a more intentional life. Your time becomes your own and not someone else's.
Here’s a question to reflect on: Where in your life are boundaries missing? Start with these steps:
- Notice your triggers: When do you feel irritated, frustrated or overwhelmed? That’s often where a boundary is needed.
- Communicate clearly: Boundaries are most effective when shared with kindness and clarity.
- Release the guilt: It's okay to say no. Remember what I just said about who owns your time? Start thinking about it that way and I guarantee you'll feel less guilty about it.
This week, ask yourself: “Where do I need a boundary to reclaim my energy?” Start small—maybe it's turning off notifications after 8 PM or saying no to that last-minute volunteer request.
Setting boundaries can (and probably will) feel uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re used to being everything for everyone. But over time, they become a gift to yourself—and to those around you. When you feel good, you show up more fully for the things and people that matter most! And don't forget one of the people that matters most is YOU!
P.S. I'm was a guest on the Inviting Shift podcast and my episode comes out on Thursday of this week, so keep an eye on my socials for the link to listen to me on the "other" side of the mic!
THIS WEEK'S EPISODE:
Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube
In this episode of Life Intended, I talk with Emily Steines, founder of BoopBod, to dive deep into the importance of regulating your nervous system and achieving balance amid life's chaos. Emily’s unique approach combines science, spirituality, and somatic practices to help individuals disrupt self-sabotaging patterns and reconnect with their body’s wisdom. From understanding subconscious beliefs to setting boundaries, this conversation offers actionable strategies for regaining presence and stepping into your authentic self. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected, Emily’s insights might just give you the “Aha!” moment you need to create lasting change.
Takeaways:
- Balance chaos with calm: Shift from chronic stress to intentional regulation.
- Harness body wisdom: Use somatic practices to reconnect with your true self.
- Set boundaries with clarity: Safeguard energy to avoid burnout.
- Reprogram subconscious beliefs: Unlock new possibilities with conscious action.
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